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I’m Nicky, a coach and mentor specialising in mental resilience and nervous system regulation, and thank you for exploring my website! I spent 28 years in the corporate world, coaching and mentoring teams, and I absolutely love supporting people to step into the best...
Connection: the foundation for you, your horse, and your nervous system
This week I want to talk about connection, because it's something I've been feeling a lot this week. I've had the bad cold that seems to be doing the rounds and I've been feeling pretty sorry for myself. I had more time on my own than usual and I started feeling low. ...
You always have a choice
Over the Easter weekend, I did what a lot of us did and visited family. I had a great couple of days and set off for the 2 hour drive back home on Easter Sunday. Except it wasn't 2 hours, it turned into 3 due to a crash on the motorway. Thanks to the power of Google...
This Is Your Gentle Reminder….
I asked myself the question, what if I don’t write a newsletter this week? And then it came to me, that this is exactly what I should write about this week - that it’s ok to take a break. It's also about showing up as authentically me - and this week, this is what...
“Wherever You Go, There You Are”
If you’ve been with me for a while, you might have noticed I don’t tend to talk about specific work or life situations and that's intentional. Because wherever we find ourselves—at work, at home, in relationships—we take our whole selves with us everywhere, whether we...
Do You Have Enough Joy In Your Life?
...after a great Friday night out! On Friday, me & a friend went to a gig - we went to see CMAT at Alexandra Palace in London and it's something I haven't done for such a long time! We had a great night, and I loved being part of a 10,000 strong crowd with music,...
The Cost of Fitting In
Brené Brown's The Gifts of Imperfection introduces the concept of “wholehearted living,” encouraging us to cultivate courage, compassion, and authenticity while releasing perfectionism, comparison, and the need for approval. The book shows that when we allow ourselves...
What’s The Link Between Journalling and The Wolf of Wall Street?
For those of you who've not seen it, The Wolf of Wall Street starred Leonardo DiCaprio as Jordan Belfort, directed by Scorsese. It tells the true story of Belfort's career as a New York stockbroker and how corruption and fraud led to his downfall. Right at the end of...
I Thought I Was Being Productive…
After returning from Bali, I was ill and it took a couple of weeks to get back to being 100%. When February arrived, I tried to jump straight back into everything. Work, domestic admin, pilates, yoga, riding, coaching & mentoring, calls with the communities I'm a...
Coming Home to Yourself: How Reconnecting with Your Values Changes Everything
And I've been doing some reflecting on last year, and what I want 2026 to look like. Mid-January I went on a retreat to Bali, which was amazing! It’s a beautiful, welcoming place with generosity and kindness at its core. I had some extraordinary experiences, from our...
Building Resilience Before You Need It
I’d sold my house, we’d moved livery yards and the plan was working - until it wasn't. On 6th January, my house sale fell through because someone in the chain withdrew. Completely out of my control — and yet it impacted me in a big way and suddenly I was back to...
New Beginnings
What if January isn’t about pushing harder but about nurturing the seeds you’ve already planted? The start of a new year often comes with a lot of noise about goals, resolutions, and how to “make this your best year yet.” But what if, instead of rushing in, you...
Five Minutes That Will Change Your Day
It’s coming up to mid-December, mid-week, and I'm seeing more posts about people feeling frazzled, exhausted and ready for a break. That final push before we get some much-needed time off can feel tough, and 2025 has been challenging for a lot of us, myself included....
Confidence Grows at the Edges of Your Comfort Zone
This year has been full of new beginnings — and plenty of wobbles along the way. I launched a new business, created a website (despite being one of the least techy people I know!), been a podcast guest, started new things with Jessie, my horse, and stepped into a...
Why Rest Isn’t A Waste Of Time
What did I do this weekend? I took some time for me. Life's busy with my business, an impending house move, getting ready for Christmas and everything inbetween! I gave myself permission to slow down. I did the things I love to do - I spent time with my horse and my...
When Things Don’t Go According To Plan…..
On Sunday morning I had a riding lesson - quiet yard, beautiful weather, I was looking forward to it after Storm Claudia had put paid to the original time. Jessie however had other ideas - We got in the school, and nothing - she put the brakes on and decided it was...
podcasts
Podcast with Curious Equestrian
You get the horse you need, not necessarily the one you wanted.
Perhaps the most profound insight from Nicky’s journey is understanding how our own nervous system state affects our horses. When she was dealing with work stress, anxiety, and personal upheaval, Jessie reflected that chaos back to her. Only when Nicky began regulating her own nervous system through meditation, better sleep, and lifestyle changes did their relationship begin to transform. This isn’t just about being “calm” around horses, it’s about nervous system health.
Such a great conversation! Loved recording this with my friend Elle MacMillan.
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